Who Do You Think You Are?

 Whether you know this or not, you will ask yourself, “Who do I think I am?” hundreds of times throughout your life.  Why? Because everything that happens to you, bounces off  the foundational concept of self in relation to the world.

You might have central ideas of who you are that remain consistent, but most of us have pieces, or branches of ourselves, that come under scrutiny on a daily basis.

We, a human beings, constantly evaluate and re-evaluate who we are based on life experiences.  Our reflections can come from a brief interaction with another person who extended kindness or maliciousness.  It can also come from significant life events such as the death of a loved one, an illness we acquire or a new love interest.

Who we think we are comes from within.  Your state of mind  determines the degree of success and happiness that shows up in your life.  You are the only one who can determine who you really are, at any given moment.  As the familiar and iconic saying goes, I think, therefore, I am.”

If your central way of perceiving life is optimistic, you will have confidence and faith in yourself to accomplish what you choose to accomplish and you will also believe that all things will work out in their best way and for the highest good.  If your mind is cob webbed with suspiciousness and mistrust, you will miss out on the gifts that vulnerability, intimacy and love brings. You emotionally, psychologically and spiritually imprison yourself.

Napoleon Hill cited this poem in his book, Think and Grow Rich.

“If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you like to win, but you think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.”

“If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a  fellow’s will–
It’s all in the state of mind.”

“If you think you are outclassed, you are.
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.”

“Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!”

As Napoleon states, “Somewhere in your make-up there lies sleeping, the seed of achievement, which, if aroused and put into action, would carry you to heights, such as you may never have hoped.”

Who you think you are matters, because that is the you that presents itself to the universe and make conscious and unconscious requests. You can be the richest person, dressed in couture clothing. But,  if you believe you are a fraud or a failure, the life you have will reflect that.

As you think about who you are, keep these four concepts in your mind:

1. Be kind to yourself; especially when you make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s how we learn and grow.  It’s  how we become humble and wise.

2. Show compassion to yourself when you have regrets. Regrets, while we have them, are a waste of precious time. Regrets don’t change the past and, when you actively focus on them, you rob yourself of the chance to be fully present in your life now.  Learn from your past.  Do differently. What happened in your life was scripted before you ever arrived.  It was and is your path.  Use the signals of regret as signposts for change and make those changes.

3. Be aware of all of the goodness inside you.  It is easy to highlight faults.  Your faults are only part of who you are.  Balance your awareness of your limitations with your strengths.  You have plenty of them, but you might have forgotten about them or thrown them aside.  Make a list of your goodness; from thinking kind thoughts about someone to doing a good deed for the greater good of humanity. You do wonderful things each day and it’s time you recognize that.  Goodness is within us all and when we focus on goodness, we make room for more goodness to appear.

4. Give yourself only a limited amount of time for self – pity. When your time is up, get back on your feet again and rise up to meet the truth of you. Stop complaining and start doing. No amount of self-pity fixes anything, it just keeps you stuck.  If you can’t figure out what to do, find someone who can help you uncover the answer.  Trust me, you aren’t the first person who is going through this challenge and you won’t be the last.  Move forward and move now!

When you allow yourself to live in your truth, your life will be painted with the brightest colors and decorated with the sweetest parts of life.

When you get there, when you step into your truth, you will know it.   It will feel easy, familiar and just right.

I wish you many blessings as you connect with your truth.

As you think, so shall you be.

In love and light,

Janis

www.cohenfamilycounseling.com

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