Why Blaming Others Keeps You Stuck

Blame is one of the surest ways to stay in a problem.  In blaming another, you give away your power.

When you solely focus on what someone else has done, you rob yourself of precious time that can be experienced in freedom from pain, anger, and betrayal.

You can not change the past.  The past is done.  You can let it go now. Continue reading

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Courage:You’ll never leave home without it.

He’s furry, where’s a beautiful cape, and sings about what he would do if he were king of the forest.  Yes, I am talking about the Lion in the Wizard of Oz.

Everyone knows this story.  There is a Lion, a Scarecrow, and a Tin Man who all have a common denominator: Dorothy.

The story is really about how Dorothy must integrate all of these aspects of herself, within herself, so that she can find her ” internal home” and begin her life in totality.  Each of these figures, the Lion, the Scarecrow, and the Tin-Man, are metaphors for different parts of Dorothy’s personal growth.

The moral of the story: All of these aspects are within you already. When you acknowledge them, only then can you integrate them into who you are and into your life. Continue reading

If You Run From Confrontation, Take a Breather and Read This!

If I were to ask you what your definition of confrontation is, what would you tell me?

You might say. “Janis, the idea of confronting someone makes me want to vomit!  You may be someone who believes that confrontation means that there’s yelling, insulting and criticism involved.  Maybe you define confrontation as something that never turns out well.

Today’s post is all about how to understand what confrontation truly means, what fears underly those who avoid confrontation and how you can think differently about speaking up for yourself, so that you don’t take the easy way out of a situation; giving up an opportunity to let go of unnecessary unhappiness. Continue reading