My Giving is Just as Good as Your Giving.

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Comparing ourselves to others is natural.  We can’t help it.

We notice how other people look, what they drive, how much money they have, their social status, academic accomplishments, and degree of public notoriety (among many other things) and compare ourselves to them; noticing what we have or lack.

We, then, come to one of these assumptions:
1. I am, have, do enough and therefore I am happy.
2. I am mediocre, need to do more, and therefore I feel ok about me/my life.
3. I am not enough and therefore I am unhappy. Continue reading

Chasingo Validation? Here’s Why and How You Can Get Off That Crazy Train.

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She is 27 years old. Bright, attractive, and unhappy.

Originally, she sought out my services because she said, “I’m dating two people and I am feeling the pressure of which one to choose.”

As it turns out, this really wasn’t the core issue.

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Things Are Temporary

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A beautiful thirty year old woman came in for a reading.

She wanted to know about what most want to know when they come in for a reading:love, money, and work.

Typically, those who come in to see me for a reading or a therapy session are there not only to get messages for themselves, but also to deliver messages to me.

This reading was no different.

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The One Thing You Need to Be Successful

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I think one of the biggest reasons why people are ineffective or unsuccessful is that they never clearly declare what they want.

It sounds simple, doesn’t it?

But ask yourself:

“Do I really know what is most important to me?” 

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Practicing Patience When All You Want To Do Is Hold On Tightly

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“Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.” ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

How do you practice patience when you want something to happen so badly that your heart aches?

How do you tell yourself to wait, when all you want to do is force the unseen to make itself known?

Patience is truly difficult to have some days, isn’t it? Continue reading

Why Waiting is Worth It

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Waiting.

It can be excruciatingly painful.

It’s that grey space that most everyone finds terrifying, terrible and chaotic.

It is the ultimate test of patience, endurance and stamina.

It is the ultimate predictor of how your pessimism or optimism plays into your ability to cope.

It is the ultimate exposure of the degree of your faith in yourself and in a higher power.

So, what are you supposed to DO while you wait? Continue reading

Why Being Single On Valentine’s Day Is AWESOME!!!

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Let’s just put it out there. 

If you’re single on Valentine’s day, you probably think, to some degree, that it sucks!

What, with all of the cards, pink and red hearts, commercials about love equaling a jewelry purchase, and fancy chocolates, it makes sense.

It’s the dreaded day that you just want to go away!

Well, what if I were to tell you that NOT having someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day with doesn’t have to feel so insanely painful.

In fact, it can be downright AWESOME!!!!

Wouldn’t you want to know why? Continue reading

Your unconditional love for your children has conditions: What are your “parental deal breakers?”

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Almost every parent tells their child, “I  want you to be happy.”

But do you REALLY mean it? Continue reading

Are You Into Pain or Pleasure?

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You know what you like. 

It feels good, doesn’t it?

Are you into pain or pleasure?

Now, don’t get confused.

I’m not talking about anything sexual.

I’m talking about what the single driving force that controls all human behavior.

And, this force will continue to control you for the REST OF YOUR LIFE:

PAIN OR PLEASURE Continue reading

Eliminate Anxiety in 4 Easy Steps!

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We’ve all been there; gripped by the intense emotional and physical arousal that stops us in our tracks.

Your Heart pounds, it’s hard to breathe, you begin to feel really hot and start to sweat and the dizziness sets in.  You have to sit down because the nausea it hitting you.

This is anxiety and it can be bad.

And depending on how you respond to it and what you do when it hits you, anxiety can actually be useful and perhaps even beneficial! Continue reading