Betrayed? 7 Things You Need to Know to Heal

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“Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.”
~ Arthur Miller

You are in a relationship or are dating someone and feel confident (or mostly confident) that all is well.

Sure, you encounter challenges, but every relationship has them, right?

One day, you find something out that you can’t ‘un-know’.

You feel like you have just been sucker punched in the gut and your body shakes in confirmation.  You’ve been betrayed.

Your world has shifted in an unexpected direction.

What do you do now?

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Peach Cobbler

 

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She was pregnant with her fifth child, due in two days.

Her younger brother passed away two years ago.

Her father passed away last year.

Her mother passed away two months ago.

She was the only surviving member of her nuclear family.

She came to see me for a reading because she wanted to know more about her life and what to do next.

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Leave Proof You Existed

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“Everything is Everything.”
~The Tao of Wu

“I want to be remembered for something, anything.  I just want to be remembered.”, she said.

“What do you want to be remembered for?”, I asked.

“At least that I was here.  That I existed.  That I mattered.  That I made a difference. That I was worth something.” she said with melancholy.

“What would that look like?”, I asked. Continue reading

Change. It’s all that and a bag of chips.

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It’s never what you expect.

In many cases, you don’t want it to happen.

After all, you have no idea what change will look like and what you are supposed to do with it once it happens.

Your sense of safety and certainty is threatened.

You have no control over it and that is terrifying to most people.

Change.

It’s elusive but it’s exactly what you need. Continue reading

Your Agreement and The Sacrifice

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She needed her car.

She had to get around town.

Her tire was blown and the rim was shot.

She has no family. A few friends. No partner.  No kids.  And, very little money.

She really needed her car.

Somehow, she found a way; she finally maxed out her credit card.

She fixed it all.  She had her car back.

But she was still broke financially and in emotional pain. Continue reading

The Person You Would Rather Not Be

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They are real.

You can feel them but you can’t always see them.

They lurk around the corner. Masterfully weave themselves into your life.  They are bold, ruthless, and take prisoners.

They will haunt you until they are stopped.

Are you ready to stop them?

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Inner Strength: Do You Have It?

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“We may get knocked down on the outside, but the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside.”
~ Joel Osteen

I’ve never met a strong person with an easy past.

It’s just that simple.

If you consider yourself a resilient person, then you know exactly what I am talking about.

You know what you have been through and know who you are because of it all.

Inner strength doesn’t come from external forces.  It doesn’t come from modeling others’ behavior or using words that others use to sound strong.

It doesn’t come from empty mantra’s or stickers on your fridge that tell you “It’s all good.”

Inner strength is earned and is the direct result of what you choose to focus on, what meaning it has, and what you are going to do about it. Continue reading

My Giving is Just as Good as Your Giving.

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Comparing ourselves to others is natural.  We can’t help it.

We notice how other people look, what they drive, how much money they have, their social status, academic accomplishments, and degree of public notoriety (among many other things) and compare ourselves to them; noticing what we have or lack.

We, then, come to one of these assumptions:
1. I am, have, do enough and therefore I am happy.
2. I am mediocre, need to do more, and therefore I feel ok about me/my life.
3. I am not enough and therefore I am unhappy. Continue reading

Chasingo Validation? Here’s Why and How You Can Get Off That Crazy Train.

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She is 27 years old. Bright, attractive, and unhappy.

Originally, she sought out my services because she said, “I’m dating two people and I am feeling the pressure of which one to choose.”

As it turns out, this really wasn’t the core issue.

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