My Giving is Just as Good as Your Giving.

gift in hand

Comparing ourselves to others is natural.  We can’t help it.

We notice how other people look, what they drive, how much money they have, their social status, academic accomplishments, and degree of public notoriety (among many other things) and compare ourselves to them; noticing what we have or lack.

We, then, come to one of these assumptions:
1. I am, have, do enough and therefore I am happy.
2. I am mediocre, need to do more, and therefore I feel ok about me/my life.
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Chasingo Validation? Here’s Why and How You Can Get Off That Crazy Train.

janis cohen hampster on a wheel

She is 27 years old. Bright, attractive, and unhappy.

Originally, she sought out my services because she said, “I’m dating two people and I am feeling the pressure of which one to choose.”

As it turns out, this really wasn’t the core issue.

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Things Are Temporary

janis cohen message

A beautiful thirty year old woman came in for a reading.

She wanted to know about what most want to know when they come in for a reading:love, money, and work.

Typically, those who come in to see me for a reading or a therapy session are there not only to get messages for themselves, but also to deliver messages to me.

This reading was no different.

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