Inner Strength: Do You Have It?

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“We may get knocked down on the outside, but the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside.”
~ Joel Osteen

I’ve never met a strong person with an easy past.

It’s just that simple.

If you consider yourself a resilient person, then you know exactly what I am talking about.

You know what you have been through and know who you are because of it all.

Inner strength doesn’t come from external forces.  It doesn’t come from modeling others’ behavior or using words that others use to sound strong.

It doesn’t come from empty mantra’s or stickers on your fridge that tell you “It’s all good.”

Inner strength is earned and is the direct result of what you choose to focus on, what meaning it has, and what you are going to do about it. Continue reading

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My Giving is Just as Good as Your Giving.

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Comparing ourselves to others is natural.  We can’t help it.

We notice how other people look, what they drive, how much money they have, their social status, academic accomplishments, and degree of public notoriety (among many other things) and compare ourselves to them; noticing what we have or lack.

We, then, come to one of these assumptions:
1. I am, have, do enough and therefore I am happy.
2. I am mediocre, need to do more, and therefore I feel ok about me/my life.
3. I am not enough and therefore I am unhappy. Continue reading

Chasingo Validation? Here’s Why and How You Can Get Off That Crazy Train.

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She is 27 years old. Bright, attractive, and unhappy.

Originally, she sought out my services because she said, “I’m dating two people and I am feeling the pressure of which one to choose.”

As it turns out, this really wasn’t the core issue.

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Things Are Temporary

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A beautiful thirty year old woman came in for a reading.

She wanted to know about what most want to know when they come in for a reading:love, money, and work.

Typically, those who come in to see me for a reading or a therapy session are there not only to get messages for themselves, but also to deliver messages to me.

This reading was no different.

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“Ok, now what?” How a 16 year old girl changed her life in minutes.

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Like a deer in headlights.  That’s what she looked like.

Eyes open wide and completely unsure of what to expect.

She had never done this before and it showed.

And, when asked if she had, she answered with only a head shake from side to side, eyes locked on mine.

The timer was set.

Pressing start, we began.

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The One Thing You Need to Be Successful

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I think one of the biggest reasons why people are ineffective or unsuccessful is that they never clearly declare what they want.

It sounds simple, doesn’t it?

But ask yourself:

“Do I really know what is most important to me?” 

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Practicing Patience When All You Want To Do Is Hold On Tightly

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“Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.” ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

How do you practice patience when you want something to happen so badly that your heart aches?

How do you tell yourself to wait, when all you want to do is force the unseen to make itself known?

Patience is truly difficult to have some days, isn’t it? Continue reading

Why Waiting is Worth It

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Waiting.

It can be excruciatingly painful.

It’s that grey space that most everyone finds terrifying, terrible and chaotic.

It is the ultimate test of patience, endurance and stamina.

It is the ultimate predictor of how your pessimism or optimism plays into your ability to cope.

It is the ultimate exposure of the degree of your faith in yourself and in a higher power.

So, what are you supposed to DO while you wait? Continue reading

Why Being Single On Valentine’s Day Is AWESOME!!!

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Let’s just put it out there. 

If you’re single on Valentine’s day, you probably think, to some degree, that it sucks!

What, with all of the cards, pink and red hearts, commercials about love equaling a jewelry purchase, and fancy chocolates, it makes sense.

It’s the dreaded day that you just want to go away!

Well, what if I were to tell you that NOT having someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day with doesn’t have to feel so insanely painful.

In fact, it can be downright AWESOME!!!!

Wouldn’t you want to know why? Continue reading

Your unconditional love for your children has conditions: What are your “parental deal breakers?”

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Almost every parent tells their child, “I  want you to be happy.”

But do you REALLY mean it? Continue reading