“Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.”
~ Arthur Miller
You are in a relationship or are dating someone and feel confident (or mostly confident) that all is well.
Sure, you encounter challenges, but every relationship has them, right?
One day, you find something out that you can’t ‘un-know’.
You feel like you have just been sucker punched in the gut and your body shakes in confirmation. You’ve been betrayed.
Your world has shifted in an unexpected direction.
What do you do now?
Comparing ourselves to others is natural. We can’t help it.
We notice how other people look, what they drive, how much money they have, their social status, academic accomplishments, and degree of public notoriety (among many other things) and compare ourselves to them; noticing what we have or lack.
We, then, come to one of these assumptions:
1. I am, have, do enough and therefore I am happy.
2. I am mediocre, need to do more, and therefore I feel ok about me/my life.
3. I am not enough and therefore I am unhappy. Continue reading
Those of us who have brothers and sisters, whether they are biological or step siblings, know that these relationships deeply define us. Depending on the pecking order, you can be the one held responsible or the one to blame for everything. You can be the caretaker, the troublemaker, the high achiever, or the quiet one who tends to slip between the cracks. While the pecking order impacts the relationships we have with our siblings as we grow up, it can change in adulthood. How it evolves results from the value that parents place on family and connectedness along with modeling what connectedness looks like over time. Continue reading
“Watch your step“, the man shouted out as I unknowingly glided into the liquid on the floor, flipped up in the air and wound up flat on my back. It happened so quickly that I didn’t know what to make of it. Within a second, I was transported from a place of un-awareness to full awareness. And, rather than feeling angry, I felt pretty peaceful. I am still stunned by this overwhelming feeling of openness to the experience. Continue reading