Your Field of Dreams

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You are NEVER out of options. You are just out of Possibility.
~ Janis Cohen

Time and time again I meet people who give up.

They just stop.

It’s not because they can’t do what they want to do or can’t be who they want to be.

Nor is it because they have completely let go of their dream (either big or small).

For some reason, they’re blocked.

Something has gotten to them. Continue reading

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Change. It’s all that and a bag of chips.

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It’s never what you expect.

In many cases, you don’t want it to happen.

After all, you have no idea what change will look like and what you are supposed to do with it once it happens.

Your sense of safety and certainty is threatened.

You have no control over it and that is terrifying to most people.

Change.

It’s elusive but it’s exactly what you need. Continue reading

Inner Strength: Do You Have It?

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“We may get knocked down on the outside, but the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside.”
~ Joel Osteen

I’ve never met a strong person with an easy past.

It’s just that simple.

If you consider yourself a resilient person, then you know exactly what I am talking about.

You know what you have been through and know who you are because of it all.

Inner strength doesn’t come from external forces.  It doesn’t come from modeling others’ behavior or using words that others use to sound strong.

It doesn’t come from empty mantra’s or stickers on your fridge that tell you “It’s all good.”

Inner strength is earned and is the direct result of what you choose to focus on, what meaning it has, and what you are going to do about it. Continue reading

“Ok, now what?” How a 16 year old girl changed her life in minutes.

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Like a deer in headlights.  That’s what she looked like.

Eyes open wide and completely unsure of what to expect.

She had never done this before and it showed.

And, when asked if she had, she answered with only a head shake from side to side, eyes locked on mine.

The timer was set.

Pressing start, we began.

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No Regrets.

Everyone has regrets about something in their lives.

Some regrets are bigger than others.

When you think about what you regret, you automatically remember what you wish you had done differently.

But…….that isn’t the only implication of regret.

Regret also signals you to live differently right now. Continue reading

Courage:You’ll never leave home without it.

He’s furry, where’s a beautiful cape, and sings about what he would do if he were king of the forest.  Yes, I am talking about the Lion in the Wizard of Oz.

Everyone knows this story.  There is a Lion, a Scarecrow, and a Tin Man who all have a common denominator: Dorothy.

The story is really about how Dorothy must integrate all of these aspects of herself, within herself, so that she can find her ” internal home” and begin her life in totality.  Each of these figures, the Lion, the Scarecrow, and the Tin-Man, are metaphors for different parts of Dorothy’s personal growth.

The moral of the story: All of these aspects are within you already. When you acknowledge them, only then can you integrate them into who you are and into your life. Continue reading

Words of Wisdom

Spoken by a most well-known people’s advocate, in a speech he gave in years past, Nelson Mandela speaks some of the most poignant words of wisdom that a person can hear.

I share this with you in the hopes that when you feel lost, alone, uncertain, in need of love, worried or anxious, that you will find the golden treasure within these words and allow them to permeate into your heart space and do their healing work.  You can read this from a religious or spiritual perspective.  It is up to you.

I hope that this brings you comfort and joy and lifts your spirit; for you are made to do great and wonderous things in this lifetime, even if you aren’t sure what that looks like right now. Read this and step into your self with courage, confidence, and faith. Continue reading

Never Be Afraid of The Truth Because It Will Never Hurt You.

Truth is your best friend.  It is said that “the truth hurts,” but the only thing the truth hurts is illusions.  The truth is the dispeller of deception; bring any situation into the light, and you can rest assured that there is good within it.

Once you align yourself with this idea, you will never again be afraid to hear truth, see truth, know truth or live in truth. In fact, when you are in alignment with truth, you are at peace, regardless of what surfaces; for truth sets you free. Continue reading

Lie Number 4

Really?  That’s all you have to say?  Lie number four focuses on the “easy out” you give yourself when you are asked to explain why something has happened. Even when people are voluntarily in a therapeutic setting, this is the first thing that flies out of their mouth when inquiry occurs about an obstacle.   This lie is regurgitated so often and by so many, that saying it somehow becomes acceptable.  Kids do it all the time when they don’t want to get in trouble after they have gotten caught for doing something they shouldn’t have.   But this lie, as adults use it, isn’t about getting caught; it’s about what you are willing to do to uncover what lies beneath and defines how willing you are to be honest with yourselfCheck out lie number four. Continue reading

Teaching Your Child the Power of Optimism

        Is your child’s cup half empty or half full?

We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are.”- Anais Nin

How does your child view life; positively or negatively?  What does your child expect from the world on a daily basis; pleasure or pain?  How does your child perceive his ability to recover from setbacks, life challenges, and emotional struggles; with ease or difficulty?  Does he let upsetting moments “roll off his back like a duck”;chalking them up to moments in time; seeing them as springboards for change? Or does he internalize the negativity associated with the experience and find fault within himself?  Continue reading