Your Agreement and The Sacrifice

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She needed her car.

She had to get around town.

Her tire was blown and the rim was shot.

She has no family. A few friends. No partner.  No kids.  And, very little money.

She really needed her car.

Somehow, she found a way; she finally maxed out her credit card.

She fixed it all.  She had her car back.

But she was still broke financially and in emotional pain. Continue reading

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Inner Strength: Do You Have It?

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“We may get knocked down on the outside, but the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside.”
~ Joel Osteen

I’ve never met a strong person with an easy past.

It’s just that simple.

If you consider yourself a resilient person, then you know exactly what I am talking about.

You know what you have been through and know who you are because of it all.

Inner strength doesn’t come from external forces.  It doesn’t come from modeling others’ behavior or using words that others use to sound strong.

It doesn’t come from empty mantra’s or stickers on your fridge that tell you “It’s all good.”

Inner strength is earned and is the direct result of what you choose to focus on, what meaning it has, and what you are going to do about it. Continue reading

This One Question Will Change Your Life!

I bet you are chomping at the bit to find out what the golden question is that will change your life. I would be( if I didn’t already know the answer).  Doesn’t everyone want to know how to change their life in an instant?

I fully expect that you are going to scroll through the text and see if I have highlighted it, underlined it or italicised it.

Well, don’t bank on finding it so easily. You are going to have to work at decoding it yourself.  What I will do for you is pave the way for you to uncover it and teach you some things as you travel. Deal? Deal.

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The Ball Is In Your Court

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;

If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with triumph and disaster

And treat those two imposters just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,

And stoop and build ’em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breath a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with kings – nor lose the common touch;

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And – which is more – you’ll be a Man my son!

(The poem, “IF” by Rudyard Kipling)

Why Trying to Please Everyone is Futile

An old man, a boy and a donkey were going to town.  The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked beside him.  As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame the old man was walking and the boy was riding.  The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions. Continue reading

No Regrets.

Everyone has regrets about something in their lives.

Some regrets are bigger than others.

When you think about what you regret, you automatically remember what you wish you had done differently.

But…….that isn’t the only implication of regret.

Regret also signals you to live differently right now. Continue reading