Your Agreement and The Sacrifice

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She needed her car.

She had to get around town.

Her tire was blown and the rim was shot.

She has no family. A few friends. No partner.  No kids.  And, very little money.

She really needed her car.

Somehow, she found a way; she finally maxed out her credit card.

She fixed it all.  She had her car back.

But she was still broke financially and in emotional pain. Continue reading

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Inner Strength: Do You Have It?

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“We may get knocked down on the outside, but the key to living in victory is to learn how to get up on the inside.”
~ Joel Osteen

I’ve never met a strong person with an easy past.

It’s just that simple.

If you consider yourself a resilient person, then you know exactly what I am talking about.

You know what you have been through and know who you are because of it all.

Inner strength doesn’t come from external forces.  It doesn’t come from modeling others’ behavior or using words that others use to sound strong.

It doesn’t come from empty mantra’s or stickers on your fridge that tell you “It’s all good.”

Inner strength is earned and is the direct result of what you choose to focus on, what meaning it has, and what you are going to do about it. Continue reading

“Ok, now what?” How a 16 year old girl changed her life in minutes.

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Like a deer in headlights.  That’s what she looked like.

Eyes open wide and completely unsure of what to expect.

She had never done this before and it showed.

And, when asked if she had, she answered with only a head shake from side to side, eyes locked on mine.

The timer was set.

Pressing start, we began.

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Practicing Patience When All You Want To Do Is Hold On Tightly

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“Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active; it is concentrated strength.” ~Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

How do you practice patience when you want something to happen so badly that your heart aches?

How do you tell yourself to wait, when all you want to do is force the unseen to make itself known?

Patience is truly difficult to have some days, isn’t it? Continue reading

No Regrets.

Everyone has regrets about something in their lives.

Some regrets are bigger than others.

When you think about what you regret, you automatically remember what you wish you had done differently.

But…….that isn’t the only implication of regret.

Regret also signals you to live differently right now. Continue reading

Why Blaming Others Keeps You Stuck

Blame is one of the surest ways to stay in a problem.  In blaming another, you give away your power.

When you solely focus on what someone else has done, you rob yourself of precious time that can be experienced in freedom from pain, anger, and betrayal.

You can not change the past.  The past is done.  You can let it go now. Continue reading

Courage:You’ll never leave home without it.

He’s furry, where’s a beautiful cape, and sings about what he would do if he were king of the forest.  Yes, I am talking about the Lion in the Wizard of Oz.

Everyone knows this story.  There is a Lion, a Scarecrow, and a Tin Man who all have a common denominator: Dorothy.

The story is really about how Dorothy must integrate all of these aspects of herself, within herself, so that she can find her ” internal home” and begin her life in totality.  Each of these figures, the Lion, the Scarecrow, and the Tin-Man, are metaphors for different parts of Dorothy’s personal growth.

The moral of the story: All of these aspects are within you already. When you acknowledge them, only then can you integrate them into who you are and into your life. Continue reading

If You Run From Confrontation, Take a Breather and Read This!

If I were to ask you what your definition of confrontation is, what would you tell me?

You might say. “Janis, the idea of confronting someone makes me want to vomit!  You may be someone who believes that confrontation means that there’s yelling, insulting and criticism involved.  Maybe you define confrontation as something that never turns out well.

Today’s post is all about how to understand what confrontation truly means, what fears underly those who avoid confrontation and how you can think differently about speaking up for yourself, so that you don’t take the easy way out of a situation; giving up an opportunity to let go of unnecessary unhappiness. Continue reading

Words of Wisdom

Spoken by a most well-known people’s advocate, in a speech he gave in years past, Nelson Mandela speaks some of the most poignant words of wisdom that a person can hear.

I share this with you in the hopes that when you feel lost, alone, uncertain, in need of love, worried or anxious, that you will find the golden treasure within these words and allow them to permeate into your heart space and do their healing work.  You can read this from a religious or spiritual perspective.  It is up to you.

I hope that this brings you comfort and joy and lifts your spirit; for you are made to do great and wonderous things in this lifetime, even if you aren’t sure what that looks like right now. Read this and step into your self with courage, confidence, and faith. Continue reading

Never Be Afraid of The Truth Because It Will Never Hurt You.

Truth is your best friend.  It is said that “the truth hurts,” but the only thing the truth hurts is illusions.  The truth is the dispeller of deception; bring any situation into the light, and you can rest assured that there is good within it.

Once you align yourself with this idea, you will never again be afraid to hear truth, see truth, know truth or live in truth. In fact, when you are in alignment with truth, you are at peace, regardless of what surfaces; for truth sets you free. Continue reading